Two Types

 You've probably heard the ...idk if it could be called a saying, but the saying "There's two types of people in the world--" and then it goes on to give you two types of people. 

Like those who like cats and those who like dogs.

Those who can count and those who can't.

Etc.

And I suppose the 'two types' that has been on my mind this evening is the "Those who think about others before themselves and those who think about themselves first." 

Personally...I tend to fall into the former category.

I tend to think about how what I do can affect or help others first. And tend to put their needs before mine. Tend to work my schedules around their schedules etc. 

Which gets frustrating a ton of the time when people don't give me the same courtesy back. 

Like the recent vacation I took. I tried to plan my time away from everyone else taking vacation...but it felt like the moment people realized I was taking vacation everyone else decided they also wanted vacation during that same time.

It's happening again in a couple of weeks when I'm using up the last of my vacation time before the end of the year. I've had this vacation planned out for months and only now are people like "OH I need this time off too!!" 

But it's in other things as well.

Like....if I'm not feeling well I try to not bother my roomies and stay away...while one of my roommates has been sick all weekend...and coughing loud enough that you can hear them through the entire house...which has put the rest of us on edge because like....could you not cough quieter? Could you not stay in your room more?

Or like it's little things like....I watch this YouTube series where Pokemon cards are given away for free in drawings. Do I have an interest in the pokemon cards or game itself? Nope. But I have a friend who is. So I enter for fun because if I win I think it would be great to surprise my friend with those cards. 

And like when I'm shopping ... I tend to be thinking more about gifts for others rather than gifts for myself. 

And it has been a bit of a struggle....something I've been working on this past year....to not give so much of myself away. To try and take a bit rather than just give give give give give. Because takers will keep taking. And sometimes...you just need to stop giving. 

So it's been "be sure to buy things for yourself" "be sure to ask things for yourself" "try to not always accommodate yourself to others but make them accommodate to you."

But really....my first thought is still for others.

Like even today I found myself in a situation where I was like "Hey, if you don't need this, I could take it off your hands and use it to help my store." Only to get the response of "No I actually want to keep it because it will become more valuable over time so I'm hoarding it for now." 

Just...little things like that. 

Where I'm again reminded that not everyone thinks or acts the same as I do.

Doesn't stop from throwing me off every time.

But I do have to remember that more than likely most people are thinking "what's in it for me." rather than "what can I do for them?" 

Until you next find these words;
I'll be watching the leaves.
Enjoy the day!

-Sarnic Dirchi